Why the Pain of Life Is Worth Every Second

I’m not unique in my suffering. Trauma is universal. That’s why this post is for everyone.

Not long ago, I hated my life. From the moment I woke up until I collapsed back into bed, every day was misery. So how did that change?

The turning point was treating my PTSD. It took 2.5 years and two different therapists, but once that invisible thorn was finally pulled from my paw, everything shifted. For the first time in decades, the constant sting was gone—and I could finally breathe.

Today, I experience life in full color. I work a job I enjoy. I’m back in the gym. I’m even putting myself out there in the dating world. But let’s be real: I only reached this stage by walking through years of pain.

If I had to relive the past 22 years just to arrive at this peace? I would. Because life, once the veil of suffering lifts, is more beautiful than I ever imagined. Every second feels precious.

What about you? Does life have you in a headlock? Is hope slipping through your fingers? If I can heal, so can you. It takes work, yes. It takes time. But there’s no secret formula: keep going, ask for help, and refuse to quit. One day, you’ll see the same beauty I now see in every moment.

Good Mental Health isn’t a Destination

Everyone is looking for a secret.  The secret to life, success, having an attractive body or whatever else.  I looked for it myself for years.  But what I found to be true is that there is no secret.

                This is especially true for mental health.  I looked for the secret ingredient that would cure me.  Take all my problems away and leave me with the perfect life. 

                After 22 years of searching, this is the truth: it all depends on work.  Work on yourself, your inner world, your outer world, and the habits you create.  Here is an example.

                I have received over 10 years of therapy with three different therapists.  Each helped, but once I graduated therapy, I thought the work was over.  I was healed, cured, and the work on myself was over.  But I was wrong.  Therapy simply allows you to get back into life and start doing the heavy lifting of building your life back.  Therapy isn’t the end, but merely the foundation for all the success you will build thereafter.

                Good mental health is something you work on every day.  It’s like building a house that is slowly degrading every day.  The only way to keep that house from falling apart is working on it every day.  Because good mental health isn’t a destination, but a body of work you continuously build day in and day out. 

                If you’re looking for a secret, stop.  Start by reaching out for help if needed.  Work on that project, hobby, or dream you keep putting off.  Start putting in daily work.  I have found that this is the secret.  Nothing flashy.  Work that goes unseen yet sets the stage for all success.  Start today and never stop.

Armor for the Day: How I Use Training to Handle Chaos

Working at a psychiatric hospital is a lot. Twelve-hour shifts, high-stress situations, breaking up fights — that’s the daily grind. So how have I not quit? How have I started to thrive despite the chaos?

The answer is armor.

Not physical armor, but something just as protective. Mine starts at 4:00 a.m.

I get up, put on my workout clothes, and head to the gym. Once there, I jump on the fan bike for 30 minutes. Not a super intense workout, but enough to wake up my body and mind.

Before I started this ritual, mornings were rough. I’d be a nervous wreck before work, teetering on the edge of a panic attack. My breaths were short and shallow. I had to do box breathing for ten minutes just to steady myself.

Now? After training, I nearly fall asleep in the car on the way to work. My anxiety is gone, my mood is steady, and I walk in ready for anything.

That’s the power of invisible armor.

My 4 a.m. routine doesn’t just calm my nervous system — it sets the tone for the whole day. It’s what allows me to thrive in a job that once overwhelmed me.

Do you have a routine like this? Something that acts as armor before the world comes at you? If you struggle with pre-work anxiety, what helps you manage it?

I believe preparation is everything. Life will always throw chaos our way, but with the right habits — treatment, sobriety, and discipline — we can walk into it steady, strong, and even grateful.

That’s the gift of armor.

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It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.

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It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.